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Competition | Minimalists — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 11:04:44 +0000

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By: theminimallist

theminimallist — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 22:37:49 +0000

Hi Kim. I absolutely leave the house tidier than Simon after a day with the girls. In fairness he looks after them only occasionally and just isn't in the habit of keeping house at the same time! Being easygoing definitely helps. I wonder if having quite interchangeable lives makes things easier where competition is concerned? I guess it must…

By: theminimallist

theminimallist — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 18:37:49 +0000

By: Kim Murdoch

Kim Murdoch — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 12:09:31 +0000

Many thanks for a thought-provoking post. My husband and I work 36/32 weekly hours respectively, and homeschool our monkeys, so the roles of working/SAH parents are constantly shifting. Think this both helps and occasionally hinders our marital goodwill. ) Find myself wholly supportive of his time at work, and always hopeful he has good days. Slightly more critical of his SAH time; find myself thinking “If I can manage to play with the kids, manage the dog, allow for ample outdoor/physical time, get everyone to their activities, AND clean-up along the way, why is the house such a disaster after his SAH time?” Thankfully we are ultimately both easygoing enough that it all works out. Life is good.

By: theminimallist

theminimallist — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:29:28 +0000

Thanks. I guess it happens by degrees. Sharing a tough day is a part of being with someone and the response should be sympathy and comfort!

By: theminimallist

theminimallist — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:05:41 +0000

Thank you. That was much appreciated.

By: theminimallist

theminimallist — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:05:05 +0000

Congratulations first of all! Asking for help is a great point. I don't think people do that enough.

By: theminimallist

theminimallist — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:03:34 +0000

Thanks. Simon and I worked together for many years before the girls arrived and he has also looked after the girls when I have done the odd day of work! Maybe having lives that are a little more interchangeable helps…

By: @MikeCase

@MikeCase — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 14:49:15 +0000

Great post! I can understand seeing competition between couples as my friends do it all the time. My wife and I are occasionally guilty of this. The way I see it, is it is more for sympathy and comfort by showing that sometimes we have a tough day rather than trying to prove who is more miserable.

By: CoffeeThinker

CoffeeThinker — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 14:48:09 +0000

That was just lovely. Just so you know.